(This wedding column first appeared in the July print edition of the Hendersonian.)
Hey, Mr. Groom! Your wedding day isn’t the end of an era; it’s a beautiful beginning of your journey as a husband, filled with new experiences and cherished moments. While the wedding day is often seen as the bride’s day, it’s your day too, and you have responsibilities! Embrace your role and take an active part in preparing for the celebration ahead. This day is the ultimate celebration; after all, the most challenging part is behind you—you successfully navigated the intricacies of romance and convinced the love of your life to say “yes” to spending a lifetime together.
During the busy preparations, it’s easy to overlook some practical essentials. A backup shirt can be crucial in case of spills, and comfortable shoes will enhance your enjoyment on the dance floor.
Simple hygiene products, such as deodorant and toothpaste, are often forgotten, along with other important items like:
● The Marriage License: This is the single most crucial item! Ensure you designate someone to bring this to the venue so you can legally tie the knot.
● Vows and Speeches: If you’re not memorizing them, and even if you are, put cue cards and a typed script in your suit pocket.
● Your Rings: Ensure the best man has the wedding bands before the ceremony begins.
● Food and Drink: While there will be a lavish feast ready for you at your reception, it’s essential not to neglect your hunger throughout the long day leading up to the ceremony. Make sure to have plenty of protein snacks and non-alcoholic beverages on hand to keep yourself and your guys nourished and well-hydrated.
● Extra Socks: A fresh pair of socks is a lifesaver to change into after sweating through the ceremony.
● Backup Shirt & Tie: Spills happen, especially when there are toasts involved. Packing a duplicate shirt and a spare necktie will keep you looking sharp.
● Cufflinks and Watch: Double-check your cufflinks and remember your watch so you can keep track of your timeline. Wearing a bow tie? Don’t forget the studs.
● Comfortable Shoes: You will be on your feet for hours… on uneven ground if your event is outdoors. Bring a pair of well-broken-in shoes or dress sneakers to change into for dancing.
● Hygiene Items: No matter the weather, you’re going to be sweating bullets, so don’t forget the deodorant and cologne. You’ll be talking a lot, so put some mints in your pocket.
● Clothing Care: Nothing ruins a dapper look faster than stray lint on your suit or tuxedo. Keep a lint roller handy to ensure you look sharp for every photo opportunity.
● Prescriptions, Pain Relievers and Water: Adrenaline and toasts can lead to dehydration or headaches; keep ibuprofen and water bottles on hand.
● Phone Charger: A portable power bank to keep your phone running for coordinating with family or vendors.
● Gifts for Your Partner: If you are exchanging wedding day gifts or letters, don’t forget to pack them.
● Groomsmen Gifts: Your wingmen, who stand by your side, deserve more than just a casual acknowledgment. Be sure to express your gratitude and support. Get creative with thoughtful, personalized gifts that convey how much their friendship means to you.
● Vendor Tips: Have your tips and payments organized in labeled, sealed envelopes and assigned to a trusted family member or groomsman to hand out.
So, there you have it, Mr. Groom—your ultimate guide to surviving the chaos of the wedding day with style and grace. Remember, it’s not just about saying “I do”; it’s about saying “I do” without breaking a sweat (well, maybe just a little).
My Love Note: Staying prepared guarantees you’ll fully enjoy every moment of your special day.
Pem Pfisterer Clark has been hosting the nationally syndicated radio show “Wedding Planning With Pem” for over 20 years. The show provides valuable advice, insider tips, etiquette and money-saving ideas to listeners across the country. Bill Stevens Stark is the executive producer of the show.
